To become the best at whatever you do in both mind and physical connection, you need to be able to make simple calculations of information that is happening around you and everyone else. You absorb vast amounts of data through your five senses. Most of it is discarded because you can’t process it. The key is to become acute to them all. With this mindset, you will start seeing your life and the people around you – from a different perspective. It’s a powerful combination of natural evolution.
The ‘visual sense’ is your most powerful tool in obtaining an understanding of perception and overall capability. Harness your visual sense to read body language, movement, positioning, colour and light; if you can teach yourself the art of visual stimulation through interpreting another person’s body language. You will become a significant player in any social setting.
Focus on details such as facial expression. Study eye movement and positioning, eyebrow patterns, rapid eyelid gestures, raising or lowering of the forehead, lips, cheeks and nose. Everyone uses different modes of action, depending on what they are talking about or doing. To understand why they are doing it will tell you the answer to questions, without even having to ask the question.
Body posture is another mechanism for visual stimulation, follow the walk, stance and hand movements. Connect your display of positioning and try to interact for social acceptance.
Everyone interacts and reacts differently, depending on how they perceive themselves internally.
Study people and look beyond the norms of everyday reality.
Sometimes you can make assumptions on the information being presented. Let’s say you are sitting in a coffee shop and you can hear multiple conversations, there’s a lot of movement, you’re picking up on different smells, and you find yourself shutting off 90% of the external information. You will engage with your thoughts and carry on with what you define as normality. However, an older man walks into the coffee shop; you can smell his odour, he looks very plain, no branded t-shirts, rough-looking beard, dirty hands and a very aged face. You may make assumptions and judgment about who this person is and come to false conclusions. He may be worth a small fortune and own serval businesses, he’s been busy today – going too and from each location. He had to fix several machines because he’s the only one with the knowledge to get the job done.
He now sits next to you in the coffee shop. Do you ignore or engage in polite conversation? The point is… don’t make the judgement before understanding the actual reality.
Sense of Touch
To touch another brings with it colossal chemistry of connection. When you contact someone on a friendship level, you enforce your verbal recognition. A shoulder tap, handshake, pat or cuddle heightens the mechanical acceptance of joy. To touch a new person tends to open up a vulnerable path, and a sense of security is instantly opened up. To touch a loved one, such as a family member or your partner; is a powerful act and brings with it all emotional experiences.
A touch used accurately in the right circumstances can open up or defuse a situation. The key is to know when to use it while extracting the information you’re visually attaining.
Let’s say you are attracted to a woman or a man. A little shoulder touch, maybe an elbow touch or high arm touch with your hand, can open or close someone (Used while engaging a conversation). A slight touch will have a response from the receiver, which will be in the form of rejection or acceptance.
Rejection could be the other person slightly stepping or turning away, or they could use a verbal follow up. A conversation about their other half is a polite warning that they don’t want to be flirtatious with you. Understanding these layers of social engagement is a simple mechanism of psychological intervenience while accepting that other layers could exist. They may need more time to get to know and understand you as a person.
An acceptance of touch could be the other person touching you back. They may tap you or move closer and engage with your domain. These types of passive engagements don’t necessarily mean they are willing to accept you as a new partner, but they have accepted you initially.
Taste and Smell
Science has taught us that your taste is linked in with your sense of smell. You taste your sense of smell. These senses tell us information without us being aware of it. They signal danger and stress and make us remember locations, or tell us when someone with a distinctive smell is close. Odours can also make us feel relaxed, feel funny or be disgusted. The taste and smell of mint can make you feel more confident as you know other people you talk too will be picking up on the same pleasant vapours.
You can also find a partner through smell. You won’t pick up on it at first, but if you make a connection with the opposite sex and exchange in conversation, you instantly know if they are a match. Especially if you are picky about your partner selection. Their body odour will tell you in detail if your genes will mix well and create strong offspring.
Sometimes in conversation, we only hear or pick out information that we want to hear. Occasionally the information received is muffled, or part understood; due to accent, pronunciation and the language barrier. You can train your mind to slow down sound waves and pick out information, enabling you to understand what is being asked. Once you get acute to this process, you will find yourself repeating the sentence over again in your mind allowing you to hear the correct information for final confirmation. Slowing information down is a powerful tool and can be best practised over the phone or in noisy places. Listening to questions for the first time can open up more doorways in your mind. You will have the answer ready and feel more in control of any given situation.
Use your senses wisely and be aware of what they are capable of. You can have more control over any given situation. Once you’re more aware of what information is being picked up, you will feel all senses working as one. It can take years to master each one, and you may find slight enhancements depending on your hobbies, employment or anything else you might find yourself doing.
Don’t abuse them and use your heightened senses for manipulation purposes. Be humble, help others and be kind.